To me, the issue is more that what you turned out ok to fit into is a dysfunctional, hurtful, underdeveloped society.
The interesting question is how much more AMAZING could you have been if you hadn't been physically hurt and shamed as a small human being. What else might you have attempted? How much bigger a life might you be leading? How much healthier would you be? How much more of your teens and twenties would you actually remember....and fondly?!
If you think you turned out ok it's worth at least considering that you may just be unaware of the checks and balances your mind has put in place to protect you from being physically hit and shamed ever again, in other words, just doing its evolutionary job of trying to keep you safe....and, while it might have worked, it's also limited the possibilites for your life.
It's like a lab rat living in a maze but only inhabiting one third of it because whenever it tried the openings to go further, it got zapped. So it makes itself comfortable in its little section with no idea that unimaginable cheeses await it beyond the walls of its mind.